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The Daily Read: You Are More than a Convienient Booty Call

Ladies, let’s chat.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people keep you around, for the simple fact that it is convenient for them. Now, everyone’s perspective on the topic varies because some are more sensitive than others when it comes to defining convenient.  However, ultimately if we keep our eyes open wide enough, the difference between being convenient and be valued it becomes pretty clear.

If you are unaware of such behavior let’s see if you can recognize these characters…The guy who only expresses himself to you when he is drunk? The guy who you is only available “after hours?” Or the guy who disappears for weeks, or even months, but tries to become a part of your picture again when he is “in town”, “no longer busy”, or when things with his other lady-friends aren’t necessarily fun at moment.

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If you happen to be dealing with anyone that falls into these categories, my advice would be to shut it down, now! Why? If it is not clear, then you have bigger fish to fry than just being convenient.  Quite frankly, these are not the type that respect you, nor your time. There is truly no other way to put it.

It’s about time you start to love yourself more and open your eyes to the fact that you are much more than his convenient booty call.  Your opportunities and/or quality time should not be on his terms, and his terms only. Notice the patterns and decide to either stand up for yourself or plan to be unhappy with your situation-ship thus accepting it for the fake connection it is.  Maybe that’s what some of you are into, who knows. It’s really none of my business but if you are not going to shut it down, then you really are wasting your breath with the constant complaining.  It’s really not hurting him at all for you to be the simple convenience – it’s actually the complete opposite because he knows you would bend over backwards to please him without ever getting close to having the title of “girlfriend” or even the generic “bae.”

Ladies, stop allowing people to deal with you however they please.  You want people to treat you like a queen? Demand it.  Do not allow anything less. Arguing about it does no good if all you are going to do after arguing is turn around continue to allow the bullsh*t.  Try ignoring those invitations after hours and see where that takes you.  If he really wants you for respectful reasons he should understand why you are ignoring his late night texts to “come chill” and will find more ways to enjoy your company during regular business hours.  If he doesn’t understand that you deserve a respectful connection with a balance of contributions, then he does not deserve your time. It’s just that simple.

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