“Falling in love with love is falling for make-believe. Falling in love with love is playing the fool.” – Rogers & Hammerstein
Fall in love with the person not the idea. Often we find ourselves wrapped up within the idea and spectacle of being with someone, and we forget that the most important part of making that relationship work is actually being in love with our partner. The date-nights and cuddle sessions are all fine-and-dandy, but they are completely superficial and meaningless if love is not the main reason behind the mushy PDA.
There is no doubt that relationships require a lot of work; however, when you actually love the person you are with, rather than the idea of him – it makes the work so much more enjoyable. I can’t begin to tell you the amount of times I’ve seen people force themselves through unhappy relationships because they have yet to realize they are only in love with the idea of love – they don’t actually feel it.
Why do you think so many people end up being unfaithful? It’s hard to be faithful to a heart that you have a false emotional connection with. So, when temptation is tested, that night of passion and lust will win.
We need to stop getting into relationships for the sake of being in a relationship. It’s not worth hurting the other person and dragging them along for a ride on the emotional roller coaster. If you are tired of being lonely – get a dog, not a boyfriend. Wanting to show-off your man and all his gifts should never be a reason for being in a relationship.
When you agree to be with someone, please make sure it is for the right reasons. Falling in love with love leads to nothing but disappointment and heartache. You could also set yourself up for a world of dangerous situations including domestic abuse. Imagine being so wrapped up in the idea of a love that you cannot see your involvement within a highly toxic and dangerous relationship. It’s best to confirm the love you have for someone is based on how well he treats and respects you in addition to the significant emotional connection you two share. If not, you will only being falling in love with love and it is only a matter of time before love falls out of love with you.
If you think this tune sounds familiar, allow the legendary Bernadette Peters to remind you of what happens when you “Fall in Love with Love”